This weekend I hosted a party at my house for 7 young girls who were 14 heading into high school in the fall.
I did this because I went through a lot of self hatred, self harm, an bad relationship, all on top of school work and it was really, really hard. So I wanted to have a night to be real and hang out with these girls and give them some advice on how to better love themselves and have a better high school experience…
It was wonderful! They all loved it and want to do it again, and they really loved being able to talk about issues that were pressing on them and frustrated them.
But at the same time it was also sad, because every single one of these 7 girls was upset about some aspect of their bodies, their stomachs weren’t flat enough, their eyes were too far apart, they looked to young, they had ugly hair, they hated their chests… The list could go on and on, and it’s so sad that this is the case for almost every girl I know at this age.
Girls, I write this to you today to say:
You are beautiful, you are worthy of all the love you receive and you are worthy of so much more than even that!
Your stomachs are beautiful at any size, your eyes are gorgeous, your hair is wonderful, you, yes you… are AHMAYZINGGGGGGG!
Take time to work on your heart and your mind, and in time you will be able to see this on a daily basis.
You. Are. Wonderful.
It makes me nearly cry every time I see someone so beautiful & they can’t see even one good thing about them. Why can’t they recognize their own beauty? I just want you to see what I see.
We are devoted to changing your idea about what makes a woman beautiful…and we’re naked.
We all come in different shapes and sizes. Health looks different on every body.
You are beautiful & you are loved!
Could say it better myself.
Hi! I’m Elle and I am finally loving myself.
Growing up I was bullied, physically and verbally. I was called fat, ugly, moley and various rumours were made up about me. (I was called moley because of the tiny blemish mark on the end of my nose, which you can’t even see- kids eh)
The thing is, I believed them. I thought that I was worthless, pathetic and ugly. I needed to lose weight, get cosmetic surgery, change who I was.
No. Now I can appreciate the stupidity and lack of logic behind bullying. In fact, yes I was a chubby child, but I was always me. I was always beautiful, they just couldn’t see it.
I went out last night and I happened to run into four of the guys who used to bully me.
“Oh Elle, wow, you’ve gotten hot”.
I smiled, laughed it off, but inside I was thinking No. I was always a beautiful person, you just couldn’t appreciate it. Maybe I live up to your perception of beauty now, but unlucky, you will always be the loser. You missed out on having me in your life.
I have recently lost weight, but not to make myself more attractive. No. Weight has nothing to do with beauty. I do not love myself more or less now. I learnt to love myself, regardless of shape or size. Regardless of a tiny bump on the end of my nose. Regardless of bullying. I learnt to love Elle, as a human being.
I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder which means that my life is one long struggle of self perception and self love. It means that I can’t trust mirrors, as they constantly tell me different messages. I used to have one good day a month in which I could face myself.
But now I have one bad day a month, if that. I am a very different person, and tumblr is one of the main reasons.
I make videos about self love, body issues and beauty.
Because of tumblr, this community and my growing self acceptance I am a much happier person.
You are all welcome to come on this journey with me. I will be making more videos in the next few weeks, but for now I just want to thank you.
Thank you for being you, you are beautiful. Love yourself, accept yourself and grow as a happy, healthy human being.
What do you think?
This girl is beautiful.
I always hate looking in a mirror because i hate what i see, i hate myself staring back at me. i hate seeing my average but not thin enough figure, my boobs that are ‘too small’, my legs that are ‘too fat’ and my face that has dimples, red rosey cheeks and skin that is far from perfect… but then saw past all of that i saw my beautiful smile that made my whole face light up that made my eyes sparkle, i saw my big green eyes that i love.Then i looked at my belly and thought to myself I’m not fat, yet I’m not to thin I’m the perfect size. I looked at my boobs and thought there not that small but there not to big either, I then looked at my arms and where i would usually see cuts and scars there was a few faint lines and that was it. I’m proud of my body. I’m proud of my bubbly yet caring personality but most of all I’m proud of myself, I’m happy that i have finally realised i am beautiful, i am one of a kind and must love myself because i am original and there is nobody else like me, or you. There is no need to think i wish i looked like her, because YOU are beautiful and so are your flaws. You are beautiful just the way you are.
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